More and more women are now able, grappling resolutely in the workplace, home care of children in every possible way, people tend to praise every aspect of these women, like women, like Superman. In fact, in the heart of these women Superman career mom, the ups and downs, Subway difficult to Chen, the kind of "trade-off" feeling that they are somewhat lost their sense.
One side is dependent on their baby, while the survival of the work is, How should we choose? How to face? Reporters found that many workers are facing her mother that confusion. Both work and two children, both contradictory guilt, frustration and hard work.
Rectification of a relaxed mood Step: If the workplace is that mothers are always "trade-off" mood dominated inside, it is difficult to really solve the problem. Experts suggest that the workplace during the psychologically mother when first rectify the mood. "I recommend a breathing technique to help relax.
Step two positive attitude to change: since has become a "career mom", we must actively confront change. Experts suggest that workplace mother not too hard on yourself, "If the normal requirements of their 90 points, as has been done, after all, mother, pregnancy or the child in the care of the special needs of the period, the requirements of 80,70 points of their own just fine .
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Get rid of office life psychological chains
Walking the workplace, you often feel jittery, dejected, timid? Then probably, you have unwittingly become a "mental slavery." The so-called "mental slavery" to describe some of the workplace is in fact a person is bound rigid concept of cognitive or way of life after the hardship and anxiety. They carry the burden of a variety of spiritual and boxed himself into a loss in the difficult and flawless. However, workplace experts tell us that these "mental slavery" by the scientific method can break the heavy yoke on the heart to regain the freedom of workplace duck to water.
"Wear this dress to work, people will not think I flirt it?", "Overtime today, others will not think I was deliberately done?", "Lunch and leadership, people will not misunderstand snitch who is me? "," if we speak, will not be laughed at it? "... ... too many" others ", so Xiao Lin dilemma all day, bored out of breath too.
In psychology, when sensitive individuals are serious about environmental factors, often the lack of an independent ability to judge. The reason for this result is usually the main support of the parties to establish confidence in the "outside world certainly," the children model, not based on "self-recognition" of the adult model. Therefore, such as Xiao Lin mental slaves often due to the lack of a sense of accomplishment and self-care external evaluation double standards in behavior are often hesitant dilemma.
"Wear this dress to work, people will not think I flirt it?", "Overtime today, others will not think I was deliberately done?", "Lunch and leadership, people will not misunderstand snitch who is me? "," if we speak, will not be laughed at it? "... ... too many" others ", so Xiao Lin dilemma all day, bored out of breath too.
In psychology, when sensitive individuals are serious about environmental factors, often the lack of an independent ability to judge. The reason for this result is usually the main support of the parties to establish confidence in the "outside world certainly," the children model, not based on "self-recognition" of the adult model. Therefore, such as Xiao Lin mental slaves often due to the lack of a sense of accomplishment and self-care external evaluation double standards in behavior are often hesitant dilemma.
Experts suggest that white-collars often combs can alleviate sub-health
In fact, sub-health is preventable and reversible. Experts, the sub is the transition of health and disease, known as the third state, also called gray health. Sub-health if allowed to develop, will become diseases; But compared to the disease, the sub can be reversed and recovery. As long as health care and through proper convalescence and sub-health state can be restored to health.
Busy urban white-collar, often sedentary, and some even sit all day, while lack of exercise. As a long time to maintain a fixed posture can easily lead to poor blood, meridian obstruction, over time, will inevitably affect health.
According to TCM theory, if the body meridians, qi and blood long-term poor, it may cause illness. And often stimulate, massage the body meridians, acupuncture points, so that blood smooth, you can return to health. Massage the body hair on the head by a few important points, to clear the meridians, the purpose of flowing blood.
Twelve meridians in the body, kidneys and so pooling in the head directly or indirectly acting on the head, so the head people there, "Zhu Yang first," said. In the hair, the comb continuously across, push the scalp, is equivalent to continue to stimulate these points with a comb to play clear the meridians, promote blood circulation over the body, regulate nerve function, eliminate fatigue and fatigue and other effects.
Busy urban white-collar, often sedentary, and some even sit all day, while lack of exercise. As a long time to maintain a fixed posture can easily lead to poor blood, meridian obstruction, over time, will inevitably affect health.
According to TCM theory, if the body meridians, qi and blood long-term poor, it may cause illness. And often stimulate, massage the body meridians, acupuncture points, so that blood smooth, you can return to health. Massage the body hair on the head by a few important points, to clear the meridians, the purpose of flowing blood.
Twelve meridians in the body, kidneys and so pooling in the head directly or indirectly acting on the head, so the head people there, "Zhu Yang first," said. In the hair, the comb continuously across, push the scalp, is equivalent to continue to stimulate these points with a comb to play clear the meridians, promote blood circulation over the body, regulate nerve function, eliminate fatigue and fatigue and other effects.
The senior position, the more vulnerable psychological of you will be
Is a splendid start, the temptation is very attractive, risk and too high when workers are generally two different way of life will choose to continue his career. The first is to continue to work. But because they are not investors, to depend on others and lack of identity has always haunt them. They step carefully, always pay attention to his boss or superior eyes and a cough, a very sensitive, for fear of coming doom day. "Always treading on thin ice," remark that is true.
The second is their own business. It is divided into two situations: First out at large, Chencang darkness. Linked to a sheep's head and sell dog meat, the surface or in the service company for their own work, in fact, mired in his own small Meng secretly thinking, transferring risk to the company, revenue retained by themselves. In recent years, seen on the majority of professional managers that moral events.
The second is determined to choose their own business. But many people are actually not suitable for their own businesses, entrepreneurial start is the beginning of their failure, so they are subject to psychological pressure is hard to imagine an ordinary person. I received a word to describe fatigue, dull eyes of entrepreneurs. He was a large state-owned enterprises, general manager of North America, met while working in North America, several friends have their own patents. The end of the previous year, the U.S. economic downturn, they have returned to their homeland. The general manager did not choose to wait a year or two, basically there is no risk to replace retiring the number one position in the state-owned enterprises, but the savings of many years to come up with several friends.
The second is their own business. It is divided into two situations: First out at large, Chencang darkness. Linked to a sheep's head and sell dog meat, the surface or in the service company for their own work, in fact, mired in his own small Meng secretly thinking, transferring risk to the company, revenue retained by themselves. In recent years, seen on the majority of professional managers that moral events.
The second is determined to choose their own business. But many people are actually not suitable for their own businesses, entrepreneurial start is the beginning of their failure, so they are subject to psychological pressure is hard to imagine an ordinary person. I received a word to describe fatigue, dull eyes of entrepreneurs. He was a large state-owned enterprises, general manager of North America, met while working in North America, several friends have their own patents. The end of the previous year, the U.S. economic downturn, they have returned to their homeland. The general manager did not choose to wait a year or two, basically there is no risk to replace retiring the number one position in the state-owned enterprises, but the savings of many years to come up with several friends.
Learning to deal with the boss's bad mood
Celebrities in the business world, many are notoriously hot temper, pound the table with subordinates is common, and even with them there will be Kenshin's vice president blamed fiercely when the nozzle. Boss in power, in the company conceited, so in front of subordinates, more likely to vent their emotions freely. Especially as the company's leader, he faced the pressures and challenges than most people can imagine, therefore, when faced with great pressure, he will consciously or unconsciously, will vent their emotions under the body. This time, if you do not know how to deal with the boss's black mood, may be affected by his bad mood, then doubt their ability to work, over time, into a mood of self-esteem and depression. If you know how to interpret, analyze, and self-mitigation of the art, you can better handle the relationship with the boss, perhaps, cause it will be a higher level.
In fact, many people are anxious when things will never come, anxiety does not mean there will be bad things to happen. Anxiety is often caught in boss relatively weak character, lack of confidence, anxiety and pressure of his time in the face of a stress response. When the boss anxious, that he faced enormous pressure, this time as a subordinate you support him, and not under his influence into anxiety, in the final result, do not give up.
In fact, many people are anxious when things will never come, anxiety does not mean there will be bad things to happen. Anxiety is often caught in boss relatively weak character, lack of confidence, anxiety and pressure of his time in the face of a stress response. When the boss anxious, that he faced enormous pressure, this time as a subordinate you support him, and not under his influence into anxiety, in the final result, do not give up.
Small coups help you maintain healthy mentality
Experts point out that often work causes the body to the state of a long period of fatigue, decreased productivity, decreased creativity, health exception, and even lead to emotional extremes, so-called harm than good.
1, try not to work overtime
Things done, and time to get off, leave the office on time, do not delay.
2, adequate sleep
Burning the midnight oil, or continue to work to get up at 5 am, is not good policy. Lack of sleep will lead to decreased creativity, mental fatigue is low, irritable.
3, turn off the computer
Our life is not all the time to the net. Sometimes turn off the computer, away from the screen, and you will feel very comfortable thinking will become clearer thinking and more active.
4, close to nature
Forget about work, get rid of troubles, close to nature is one of the best ways. Take some time to go outdoors each day, such as a walk, take a look at flowers and trees, on the physical and mental health is very useful.
1, try not to work overtime
Things done, and time to get off, leave the office on time, do not delay.
2, adequate sleep
Burning the midnight oil, or continue to work to get up at 5 am, is not good policy. Lack of sleep will lead to decreased creativity, mental fatigue is low, irritable.
3, turn off the computer
Our life is not all the time to the net. Sometimes turn off the computer, away from the screen, and you will feel very comfortable thinking will become clearer thinking and more active.
4, close to nature
Forget about work, get rid of troubles, close to nature is one of the best ways. Take some time to go outdoors each day, such as a walk, take a look at flowers and trees, on the physical and mental health is very useful.
The modern workplace white-collar man taboos
Lazy man, understand, understanding, but the taste out of their own lazy will understand, understand the. Itself as a strong man, in the social backbone of interpersonal exchange, then the self-image also particularly important, not asking all of them have, like Chow Yun Fat, but out of respect for the work of multi-party, at least, it should be clean and generous. But some men hair tresses, bright clothes, smoked down a pass, really terrible, difficult to close colleagues, let alone worked together. From one extreme to the other extreme, the result may be the same, some men may be too hard to push to the other side of smell - aroma of smoked. Office as a very rational public places, such stage-tired tired of the smell really should not be present.
Women love a man of humor, too humorous man, woman, what it says love is not up. In the office, work space of ridicule can relieve tension in the working atmosphere so that people feel good, but dirty joke Lianpian speaking of men, not only pollute the air, but also bring some disturbing embarrassment.
Lives of people like the characters on the newspaper photo, you can hook the edge of existence, but need to have their own space, especially in social interaction, communication can be in some men from the companions in the work too close (especially women), without permission to occupy the reserved space to others, such as the habit of moving their faces to female colleagues Lianpang, hand on the seat backs female colleagues, the damage from the conventional communication protocol, neither good maid colleagues Open to remind, but also felt very disgusted, affecting both sides of the work process.
Often said that gossip very irritating, the long-tongued man received his mouth, I am afraid to add a hate word "more" out. Some men have this hobby has chosen, always inquire about the privacy of my colleagues, asking not to be casually arranged, resulting in unnecessary misunderstanding among colleagues, disrupt the normal order of human relations.
Women love a man of humor, too humorous man, woman, what it says love is not up. In the office, work space of ridicule can relieve tension in the working atmosphere so that people feel good, but dirty joke Lianpian speaking of men, not only pollute the air, but also bring some disturbing embarrassment.
Lives of people like the characters on the newspaper photo, you can hook the edge of existence, but need to have their own space, especially in social interaction, communication can be in some men from the companions in the work too close (especially women), without permission to occupy the reserved space to others, such as the habit of moving their faces to female colleagues Lianpang, hand on the seat backs female colleagues, the damage from the conventional communication protocol, neither good maid colleagues Open to remind, but also felt very disgusted, affecting both sides of the work process.
Often said that gossip very irritating, the long-tongued man received his mouth, I am afraid to add a hate word "more" out. Some men have this hobby has chosen, always inquire about the privacy of my colleagues, asking not to be casually arranged, resulting in unnecessary misunderstanding among colleagues, disrupt the normal order of human relations.
How do we enjoy the happiness from our work?
In today's increasingly complex and compact, the pace of work, the "keep it simple" principle is the best deal. "Simple" from the clear goals and direction, you know what things to do, what not to do something.
Johnson Based on years of research, found that modern people have become complex and inefficient work of the most important reason is "lack of focus." Because of unclear objectives, always a waste of time to do the same thing repeated or unnecessary things; omission of critical information, but the information in the least too much time to waste; not catch the focus of communication must be the same again thing.
The following is the Johnson book, finishing out of the 10 most useful and simple way to work.
First, clear work objectives and requirements, avoid duplication of work and reduce the chance of errors
You have to sort out issues such as: I must now make a change? Can recommend me from where to start? What should I do to avoid affecting the achievement of the goals? What tools and resources available?
Second, know how to say no, not to request additional disrupt the progress of their work
For many people, having rejected the request seems to be a difficult thing. Refusal skills in the workplace is very important communication skills.
Johnson Based on years of research, found that modern people have become complex and inefficient work of the most important reason is "lack of focus." Because of unclear objectives, always a waste of time to do the same thing repeated or unnecessary things; omission of critical information, but the information in the least too much time to waste; not catch the focus of communication must be the same again thing.
The following is the Johnson book, finishing out of the 10 most useful and simple way to work.
First, clear work objectives and requirements, avoid duplication of work and reduce the chance of errors
You have to sort out issues such as: I must now make a change? Can recommend me from where to start? What should I do to avoid affecting the achievement of the goals? What tools and resources available?
Second, know how to say no, not to request additional disrupt the progress of their work
For many people, having rejected the request seems to be a difficult thing. Refusal skills in the workplace is very important communication skills.
Wise to treating emotional problems in workplace
"Edge of the rabbit does not eat grass", has indeed undergone an office romance can be ordered "home" and not accidentally. However, attempts to prevent the case may be able to not call it love it! Why do so many working people flout the law? American Spirit therapist Cater. Dr. Carr explained: "Love can happen anywhere." People now spend more time at work, even greater emphasis on career, workplace, there is no doubt a natural place to meet the opposite sex fall in love. Although the situation is getting better, but the parties can not get too excited, especially women, it is best to first assess their own ability to bear the pressure, not the aftermath of defeat office romance.
If you and your guy in the office several times only limited to date drawing near, and you intend to stop one of them is love, you can still restore the relationship between colleagues without much side effects; but if you have lingering row start side, then want to work hours without his influence, not so easy. This is why once the development of an office romance, we must - do not worry in the appointment; in the company's party as carefully as possible; in the first few dates is best not to drink; not to wait and see phase of love let nothing interfere with your judgments.
If someone else found out, they will begin to guess where you go after work, instead of caring about your work performance; or your colleagues began to collect her boyfriend think you are the kind of people, and say you are and a senior management appointments others are more likely to bear as you think. If you do not want people the wrong way to assess the performance of your ability and value, caution gossip, you can - take your time to stagger the work to the company; try not to meet during working hours and minimize the time alone; not to private things into the office.
If you and your guy in the office several times only limited to date drawing near, and you intend to stop one of them is love, you can still restore the relationship between colleagues without much side effects; but if you have lingering row start side, then want to work hours without his influence, not so easy. This is why once the development of an office romance, we must - do not worry in the appointment; in the company's party as carefully as possible; in the first few dates is best not to drink; not to wait and see phase of love let nothing interfere with your judgments.
If someone else found out, they will begin to guess where you go after work, instead of caring about your work performance; or your colleagues began to collect her boyfriend think you are the kind of people, and say you are and a senior management appointments others are more likely to bear as you think. If you do not want people the wrong way to assess the performance of your ability and value, caution gossip, you can - take your time to stagger the work to the company; try not to meet during working hours and minimize the time alone; not to private things into the office.
Males also need to learn to "show" during interview
For a long time, we have been emerging around the emergence of a variety of overnight fame to the "celebrity" who had not really excel in the traditional concept of them, but by today's advanced platform for all kinds of information, the use of some exaggerated and bizarre way of self-promotion, menacing way into the public's attention, without any explanation to be a common focus.
Bring such a topic here, is not to make such acts against any of their judgments, but only a little bit of grandstanding by their fame of such methods, let me think of some phenomena in the job search process.
For example, originally only used to illustrate the situation of candidates resume, but was cooked up into a gorgeous high-cost copies of "art", or turned into a beautiful "personal album", and even spared no expense to be made into a taste of the DV video works, etc..
Although we do not encourage job seekers are all to do so, but while it is understandable but this behavior.
In today's brutal competition in the job, some amazing ideas to find ways to win a little more for their own jobs, of course, understandable.
Imagine a job to a critical moment, if two candidates have almost the same conditions and qualifications, to grasp the reins of how the hiring manager will make judgments and decisions? ! Needless to say, luck must be deeply impressed him that one! Similarly can be pushed, not only for employment need to always show itself to enter the workplace, the greater need.
Bring such a topic here, is not to make such acts against any of their judgments, but only a little bit of grandstanding by their fame of such methods, let me think of some phenomena in the job search process.
For example, originally only used to illustrate the situation of candidates resume, but was cooked up into a gorgeous high-cost copies of "art", or turned into a beautiful "personal album", and even spared no expense to be made into a taste of the DV video works, etc..
Although we do not encourage job seekers are all to do so, but while it is understandable but this behavior.
In today's brutal competition in the job, some amazing ideas to find ways to win a little more for their own jobs, of course, understandable.
Imagine a job to a critical moment, if two candidates have almost the same conditions and qualifications, to grasp the reins of how the hiring manager will make judgments and decisions? ! Needless to say, luck must be deeply impressed him that one! Similarly can be pushed, not only for employment need to always show itself to enter the workplace, the greater need.
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